Kyle Maynard’s Pattern Interrupt Handshake
Rounding off this week’s emerging theme of perseverance, I had the opportunity to hear and meet a speaker who is a paragon of determination and endurance.
Kyle Maynard, athlete, entrepreneur, speaker and author of the book, No Excuses, is a quadruple congenital amputee. Although he was born with no limbs starting at the elbows or at the knees, he was fortunate to be raised by parents who instilled in him a sense of being a “regular” person who could achieve anything he set his heart to. Anything. Now after only 25 years, his accomplishments — ranging from the personal to the philanthropic — already exceed those achieved by most people… by a wide margin.
If you look up Kyle Maynard online, there are numerous photos and videos portraying him doing various physical feats, as well as delivering various high-profile interviews and motivational speeches. To me, all of those photos and videos certainly convey powerful ideas that he represents, however, to really connect with Kyle Maynard, you’ve got to meet him in person.
If you meet him in person, he will want you to shake his hand.
Kyle knows that for many people who meet him for the first time, they’re not sure what to do.
Kyle Maynard does a great job as a speaker. He combines a fun-loving, witty demeanor with a profoundly centered, mature perspective. He backs up his views on life by sharing some deeply personal experiences, including stories of intense frustration, challenge, joy and gratitude.
In one very funny story, he tells of meeting a woman at the airport who saw him interviewed by Larry King on television. The woman expressed awe and amazement at Kyle’s impressive achievements… after all, this is a guy who was a championship wrestler and who climbed his way to the top of Mount Kilimanjaro, and yet he did not have hands or feet. After praising him and saying how inspired she was by his story, she suddenly looked at him and said, “Oh, do you need help getting into your seat?”
The woman went on about this, insisting that she had to help this “poor unfortunate” fellow, despite Kyle’s gracious demurral. Eventually he let her to go fetch a wheelchair. While she stepped aside, Kyle grabbed his suitcase and ran ahead to board the airplane.
“Be comfortable with being uncomfortable.”
– Kyle Maynard
A pattern interrupt is a therapeutic mechanism that is used to break a pattern of thought or behavior. It’s the proverbial “needle scratching the record,” so that the person experiencing it goes into a momentary trance, and the person inducing it can nudge them into a different direction or state of mind, changing them for the better.
The hypnotherapist Milton Erikson famously used a special handshake to help his patients overcome strongly conditioned patterns of thought and open themselves up to a wider range of possible responses to stimuli.
Kyle Maynard’s handshake provides people with a pattern interrupt more powerful than any practitioner of NLP / Eriksonian hypnosis could do.
When you shake his hand, which technically is his upper arm, Kyle Maynard suddenly connects with you as an “ordinary person,” and his extraordinary strength — both and physical and spiritual — leaves a tangible impression.
There is nothing to complain about. There is no self-pity. There is only opportunity… and excitement for possibilities.
Posted on March 23, 2012, in Learning, Positivity, Psychology and tagged body language, Business, handshake, Inspiration, kyle maynard, learning, life, motivation, motivational speaking, no excuses, positivity, Psychology. Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.