No, It Never Becomes Completely Easy, But It Does Become More Enjoyable
Posted by danspira
Here’s a confession: I don’t like to write. I don’t like to run. I don’t like to speak. I don’t like to sell. I don’t like to exercise. I don’t like to meet people. I don’t like to work. I don’t like to play.
Wait, ok, I do like to play.
In fact, this is all just a bit of false confession… none of the above is completely true. I do like to write, run, speak, sell, exercise, meet people and work — A LOT — once I’ve started doing those things.
Yet there is that little moment of resistance, that tiny bit lazy shy inertia, that needs to be busted through, over and over again. Routine helps minimize it, keeps its calciferous growth in check, but it’s still there.
People who have certain good habits will often say that “it’s constant work,” which is to say, it doesn’t stop being difficult to get moving on certain things, to push through the gravitational pull of simply not doing it… the ever-present potential of a downward spiral.
As the old saying goes, if you’re not moving forward, you’re moving backward.
Shouldn’t It Be Easy?
In the world of strengths-based talent development, some well-meaning folks have emphasized the idea that playing to a person’s strengths is a way of taking the path of least resistance, and that a “true strength” is an activity which “comes naturally” to a person.
However, I think it’s critically important to distinguish between that initial moment of performance — the warm-up and starting line — and the actual performance itself… because, no it never becomes (completely) easy. There is always a moment of kicking-yourself-in-the-butt to get going… it may be a tiny kick or a large kick, but it’s still there.
One of the more destructive, demotivating things a person can tell themselves is, “Well, since it’s still hard for me to do this, then I must not be a natural at it.”
This is an unfortunate misunderstanding of what “natural” means.
The need to exert energy and break entropy is precisely what nature does.
A plant does not ‘naturally’ stay upright without making some effort to keep itself upright. A natural runner, speaker, etc. does not hone their talent without making an effort to keep practicing.
Yes, it is easier not to start, not to do… but it is much more enjoyable once you get going.
To get past the start line, seek the thrill of doing, of moving.
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Posted on June 24, 2012, in Blogging, Business, Career, Coaching, Communication Skills, Learning, Life, Metaphors, Positivity, Productivity, Psychology, Sales, Talent, Writing and tagged Business, Energy, Gravitation, Mars, Neil Armstrong, Path of least resistance, Tuscany, United States. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.