Timing is anything


(#22 of 27, a collage and re-assembly of elements from a post from last year on the importance of choosing the right timing to make a strong effort, and the importance of a strong effort to making the timing right)

Yesterday I wrote about bluffing, bourbon and brotherly love. Today under the blanket of a blizzard I’ll briefly continue with the love theme, tie it back to the concept of time and add in a dash of mysticism…

Blizzard Window Triptych

Falling in love — love of any kind, being, thing, idea or person — is a conscious effort.*

The exertion of love creates something like a field of gravity or energy. When delivered with just the right amount of effort, it’s a force that seems to slow down time… and bend space.

Blizzard Sliding Door Glare 1

A strong effort driven by love will, all by itself, open up tiny windows of opportunity and turn them into doorways of fortune.

Blizzard Sliding Door Glare

It’s never too late and it’s never too early.  It’s just a matter of focusing the energy into those little blips of timing that keep presenting themselves.  Blip.  There goes one.  Blip. Nearly missed it.

Blizzard Window Horiz Blinds

By seeing the available window and leaping through it, the Wizard arrives precisely when he means to.

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Posted on January 27, 2015, in Leadership, Metaphors, photography, Positivity, Productivity, Psychology, Relationships, Risk Management and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. Post-script / Nerd reference notes, for further study:

    re: Wizard timing:

    * re: “Falling in love is a conscious effort” — reference here is to a recent New York Times magazine essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” by Mandy Len Catron, which references a list of “36 Questions That Lead to Love.” Note that the original research studies conducted around these questions attempted to control for variables such as baseline compatibility of attitudes in the conversational partners, their expectation around the outcome (“this will make us closer”) and whether they were given an explicit goal (“your goal here is to become closer”). The results of the studies are intriguing, though it’s hard to image that these questions would “work” if one or both parties did not make a sincere effort. To call the procedure a “scientifically proven” technique for real life interactions would be a stretch — and the researchers don’t make that claim.

    On the other hand, it’s fair to say that it’s well designed relationship-building exercise / induction, with a very cool underlying recursive structure that is based on insights about successful interpersonal dynamics. Do the exercise and resist the temptation to skip questions even if they seem repetitive. Pro-tip: take some license with question phrasings here and there to overcome potential hangups on having to find “the greatest / best / worst” examples of something where “one of the greatest / best / worst” will suffice. Also, some of the questions on the list are best un-asked — elaborate instead on why you think the question seems fundamentally flawed to you — in doing so, you may discover a deeper truth.

    Finally, New Yorker writer Susanna Wolff did a fine job picking up on the underlying structure of this exercise and injected some biting, passive-aggressive insights in her parody, “To Fall Out of Love, Do This.” Too funny. Damn those cynics and skeptics.

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